>>I Dieci Perfetti<<

Othello_Red SG

wise words indeed.

alfagal SG

rainee SG

u dun need to be afraid of them and how they wud react after you reject them. They might come to like you after some time, this is something inevitable. It is not bcos u send out the wrong signs or anything. Some guys might just like you because he thinks he enjoys hanging out with you and he finds you nice to talk to, etc.

So dun blame yourself for everything. Dun put too much burden on yourself, otherwise u will be the one bearing all the sufferings.

renorenal SG

i'm speaking in general guys, not your friends... since you did mention that you send out the wrong signals, implying not only to your friends, but to the general community as well...

somehow, we are obliged to say that it's all in your mind, but you need to know... are u the one thinking that you are sending out wrong signals, or are they interpreting it wrongly, in this case, it is their mind...

rainee SG

think can open one counselling center here and u become the advisor? Mr. Green

renorenal SG

nope... it's for you to compare the extremes... not referring to you... Wink

starblue SG

dun look sad cos of me. i think i will be able to accept that more easily if he were "empathetic".

Othello_Red SG

a warm smile and a long, tight hug?

renorenal SG

>>starblue - i dunno whether you are a perfectionist or not, or a high achiever, but often enough, you can't please human beings, not all of them, some will grow to hate you for your success while you enjoy the champagne while others will join you...

rainee SG

sometimes, he might feel pain for you...it is because he cares that he will feel the pain when you tell him that you are hurting...if he doesn't care, he wun even feel anything...

renorenal SG

empathetic meaning to put yourself in one's shoes and understand one's condition, but not too overly involved into it until it becomes sympathetic...

starblue SG

i did mention it the other time didnt i?? about how i dunno how to face them after i found out they had a thing about me... haiz.. nvm lah, i know a lot of things i'm just feeling too much., but i cant help myself...

Othello_Red SG

and going beyond that, leading the person out of the depths...hence the warm smile and the hug...

the Bear SG

can't...

this physician can't heal himself sometimes Wink

renorenal SG

>>starblue - precisely... not every guys share their emotions with you by crying as well, so with the info at hand, you should try to be open and try to share your feelings to those whom may not be that close, but okay close... test the water before you try of course...

rainee SG

yea, but you can't blame them for feeling that way, and you dun have to feel awkward about it oso...and if they are ur true frens, they will not break off the frenship just bcos u tell them that u do not want to be more than frens...

alfagal SG

same here..jus cant understand ownself sometimes, but okie when it comes to other pple prob...hahaha

starblue SG

but i feel bad to make someone hurt just because i am hurting. i always feel that since telling someone that problem will only make me feel better but wun solve the problem, and will make the other person sadder, then why bring it upon him? i have to be the one to solve it in the end, and there is no use crying to someone over it and making him sad....

renorenal SG

as a friend yes, as a doctor no... Laughing

hisoka SG

why must think so much? just do it!

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